Church Assumption (RISK) #2 - "Sexual Predators Are Monsters: A Dangerous Assumption"

When we imagine a sexual predator, many of us picture a sinister, shadowy figure—an outsider who doesn’t belong in our community. But as Deepak Reju highlights in his book On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church, this assumption is both harmful and misleading. Here’s why:

Stereotyping Predators

The belief that predators are "monsters" or easily identifiable leads to complacency. In reality, many predators are trusted members of the community. They may be charming, helpful, and deeply involved in church activities. By clinging to stereotypes, we risk overlooking the people who pose the greatest threat: those who use their positions of trust to groom and exploit children. By clinging to stereotypes, we risk overlooking the people who pose the greatest threat: those who use their positions of trust to groom and exploit children.

Overlooking Red Flags

Predators don’t announce their intentions. Instead, they use grooming behaviors to build trust with children and their families. This might include:

• Giving special attention or gifts to a child.

• Isolating a child from others under the guise of mentorship or care.

• Gradually crossing physical boundaries.

When we assume predators are "others," we fail to recognize these warning signs in people we know and trust.

Resistance to Accountability

One of the hardest realities for a church to face is that a trusted leader, volunteer, or member could be an abuser. This can lead to denial, defensive reactions, and even victim-blaming. Protecting a church’s reputation at the expense of addressing abuse enables predators and silences victims.

Breaking the Assumption

Churches must reject the myth that predators are monsters and instead adopt a mindset of vigilance and accountability. Here’s how:

• Educate the Congregation: Teach members to recognize grooming behaviors and understand the realities of abuse.

• Implement Safeguards: Enforce background checks, two-adult rules, and other protective measures, even for long-time members.

• Encourage Reporting: Create a culture where concerns can be raised without fear of judgment or dismissal.

  
  

Conclusion

Predators don’t wear signs, and they often look nothing like the "monsters" we imagine. They thrive in environments where trust replaces accountability. As Deepak Reju reminds us in On Guard, "Protecting children starts with recognizing the real face of abuse—and that face may be closer than we think."

It’s time for churches to confront this assumption, educate their communities, and prioritize safety over comfort. Every child deserves a safe and nurturing environment—and that begins with breaking the myths about abuse.

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