Church Assumption (RISK) #3 - "We Know the People in Our Church: Why This Assumption is Risky"

One of the most common assumptions within church communities is that "we know the people in our church." This belief fosters a sense of safety and trust but can also leave congregations vulnerable to the very risks they hope to avoid. As Deepak Reju explains in his book, On Guard: Preventing and Responding to Child Abuse at Church, this assumption is dangerous and can have serious consequences for child safety.

The Comfort of Familiarity

In tight-knit church communities, relationships are built on familiarity and trust. Members often believe that long-standing relationships or shared faith commitments make individuals immune to wrongdoing. Unfortunately, predators often exploit this trust. Reju highlights that many abusers are not strangers but trusted individuals within the community—volunteers, leaders, or even fellow parents.

Overlooking Warning Signs

When churches assume they "know" their members, they are less likely to notice or act on red flags. Predators use grooming behaviors to gain trust, including:

• Being overly generous with attention or gifts for a specific child.

• Volunteering for roles that grant access to children without proper oversight.

• Building relationships with families to lower their guard.

Reju emphasizes that this false sense of security often blinds church leaders and members to these subtle but critical warning signs.

Resistance to Accountability

When allegations arise against someone well-known or respected, churches often struggle to reconcile the accusation with their perception of the individual. This can lead to denial, defensiveness, or even protecting the accused rather than the victim. As Reju points out, failing to hold individuals accountable creates a culture where abuse can thrive.

How PPE Kids Can Help

At PPE Kids, we recognize the challenges churches face in balancing trust and accountability. Our mission is to empower congregations with the tools and knowledge to protect children effectively. Here’s how we can help:

• Training Programs: We provide comprehensive training on recognizing grooming behaviors, understanding the dynamics of abuse, and creating a culture of vigilance.

• Policy Development: Our experts assist churches in crafting and implementing child protection policies tailored to their unique needs.

• Background Checks: PPE Kids helps churches establish thorough screening processes for volunteers and staff, ensuring every adult is vetted before working with children.

• Independent External Audits: Making sure that your churches remain in compliance and maintain a high standard of excellence in your child protection journey.

• Support and Resources: From crisis management guidance to regular consultations, we’re here to support churches in every step of their child protection journey.

Breaking the Assumption

The belief that "we know the people in our church" can no longer be an excuse for inaction. Churches must adopt a mindset of vigilance, understanding that trust and familiarity should never replace accountability. As Deepak Reju reminds us in On Guard, "Assumptions about safety are no substitute for the hard work of prevention."

By partnering with PPE Kids, churches can move from complacency to action, creating safe spaces where children are protected and families can worship without fear.

Visit ppekids.org to learn more about our training and resources.